A tangent, and nothing to do with music. But Grimes is so badass and inspired me to write on this, too. I just want to say, it’s not totally a popstar thing. It’s everywhere. As a teacher, it’s implicit that I be wholesome, god-loving, mainstream, predictable, and conservative in my speech and actions (meaning, I have to think way too much about every little thing that I do). At a girls’ school (I know, I signed up for this), I’m expected to encourage conformity to men’s standards of beauty and behavior (“graceful appearances”), domestic prowess (“social responsibility”), and casual conversation restricted to being of a childish nature.
I’m not complaining about my job, and I am thankful for it. Any job that doesn’t really fit the worker forces them to act a certain way to fit in. It just sucks, because not only am I being limited because of my gender, but these girls are being primed to act vapid (even if they’re not) and prioritize physical beauty over creative, intellectual accomplishment. Japan (and lots of foreign guys who come here) see no problem with this, find it endearing, appreciate that so much effort is put into attracting their sexual attention. I enjoy being “cute” sometimes, too, when the mood strikes. But it’s a lifestyle (and full-on desire to be objectified, it seems) for these girls who become women, who still act like girls, don’t know what rape is or what to do if it happens to them, don’t know how to get what they want without resorting to “feminine wiles,” and after they’re no longer physically attractive and only “useful” as a nurturing obaasan, some of them are left wondering what the hell happened. This is my point of view, and a result of my conversations with people over the last 3 years. I’m being general.
That’s life! Right? I think the purpose of life is to find where you naturally find happiness, but that can be so hard for many people. I’m still working on it.
i dont want my words to be taken out of context
i dont want to be infantilized because i refuse to be sexualized
i dont want to be molested at shows or on the street by people who perceive me as an object that exists for their personal satisfaction
i dont want to live in a world where…